“The Housewife: (1) the erotics of subjective abandonment in housewife status, or the sexualization of dissociation I’m terming here “fucking like a Housewife”; (2) how trauma attaches to Her, and what tools are or could be made available for Her reckoning with it; and (3) to what extent such a figuration is accessible to women who are not white, not cis, and/or not of a certain class status (although I will be orienting my discussion especially around the identities and experiences I inhabit and therefore feel at least partially qualified to speak about, although not for), finally, and ideally, opening up a further dialogue for other women to step in concerning their understandings of various disenfranchisements as they intersect with dominant figurations of gendering in the family.”
“To the final point, what I am also asking here is: Are trans women de facto alienated from these structures, or is there a path toward reimagining the Housewife beyond the bounds of cisness, whiteness, and subjection under late-capitalist variations on the family? In some sense, this is also a question of whether or not a certain fashioning of heterosexual desire—or heterosexuality as a determinable identity and ongoingness in and of itself—can only and ever be a dead remnant of a racist and misogynist structuration of desire within a system built on commodity fetishism.”